You’ve Got Mail: Group Termination Activity

Directions: First, have your clients create their own paper mailbox (click here for a tutorial).  Then, each person, including the therapist, writes a short note to every other member of the group.  You can instruct them to write something that they have gained by knowing that person, a strength they can identify, a motivating message, etc.  The notes are then placed in the mailboxes for the group members to take home.

Separation Anxiety Pocket Hearts

Separation Anxiety Pocket Hearts: Young children often have trouble separating from their caregivers.  It sometimes helps for them to carry transitional objects (ex. a photo) with them to help manage their anxiety during time apart.

1. The caregiver can make these hearts for their child on their own, or the dyad can create them together (Click here for a tutorial).  The hearts can be substituted by any other handmade or personal items the family desires. 
2. Just before each separation the caregiver gives the child a heart representing their love and assures the child that they will be reunited.  The hearts are not a substitute for taking time with the child to process their anxiety (do not “sneak out” of the house).  They can tell the child that if they begin to miss them then they can take out their heart and know that their caregiver loves them, is thinking of them, will come back, etc.  Sometimes it might help for the parent to carry around a heart as well representing that their child is always in their thoughts and they are connected (kids like this).
3. If possible, take baby steps.  Initially, a child might use a heart for a brief separation when the parent is in another room, and then move on to short outings that get progressively longer as the jar gets fuller.
4. Each time they are reunited they place their heart in a jar.  Children may have trouble recalling all the times their caregivers returned and this provides a nice visual.  Looking at their jar will help to assure them that their caregivers always come back.
5. Ideally, separations will become easier and they will look to the heart for support less and less until they no longer need it.  At this point just thinking about their jar back at home should become enough to assuage any remaining anxiety.
6. These hearts are a supplemental intervention.  It is more effective when caregivers commit to building trust, following through with what they say will do, and continue to talk to their children about separation and encourage self-expression.
7. I have also known children who used a calm bottle to help self-regulate after their caregivers leave (click here)
8. More suggestions for dealing with separation anxiety and promoting independence can be found here.

Group Puzzle Activity

This is a good team building activity that can be used to talk about acceptance, differences, working together, etc.  Group members all get their own piece to decorate.  At the end each individual piece is unique and beautiful in its own way but when the puzzle comes back together it creates an intricate “masterpiece.”  This lends itself to many metaphors and discussions you can tailor to fit your group.  You can paint over or glue paper to an old puzzle or just buy a blank one (Bare Books sells then for $.99).  Get creative with the materials you provide.

Raffle Tickets

Printable Social Skills Raffle Tickets

I made these raffle tickets using “Pages.”  I give them out to the kids in my 1^st/2^nd grade when I catch them using some of the social skills we have worked on or for good behavior.  I print them on multi-colored cardstock. I will raffle off some mystery prizes during the last session.